Why behave?
Why shouldn´t we scream when we are mad, cry when we are sad? Maybe that would be more healthy than keeping it inside? I swear, sometimes when I see a kid lying on the floor in the supermarket screaming and crying I wish I could do that, sometimes… But I don´t, I behave.
Of course there are some occasions where we have to behave and not scream and shout every time we feel like it, that´s what we learn when we grow up. Outdoor-voice and inside-voice, that´s what I learned in kinder garden. But I´ve never been very good at hiding my emotions. I did however learn over the years to swallow my feelings and behave, put it inside. Now I feel like I´m peeling layers of onion to get to the bottom of what makes me so tired.
I know for a fact most men would pay a lot of money to make us women stop crying when we do. And we do, we cry when we are sad, we cry for nothing, we cry. I´m a firm believer in showing feelings, not hiding feelings. There´s a very simple reason; putting feelings down in my through makes me sick, literally it does. So now and then I slam a door or scream into a pillow, and wish I could just lie down in the middle of the street screaming and shouting, like a kid. Would it help? I don´t know, but it would be quite a sight!
I have thought if that too :3 I can picture it right now, when someone needs to get ones feelings out they’ll just lay down in the middle of the street and scream. I really wonter if the children would think it was weird. Sometimes, when I have the chance, I write to get my feelings out. One pice or several piece of paper, and rip it up and throw it away afterwards.
He he, yeah the kids would probably be standing there with wide eyes;-) that’s a brilliant idea… Writing it out, thanks for reminding me..haven’t really done that in ages. A while back I burned my old diaries, because I thought about how much old stuff was stuck there, and what if someone read it one day….
Sometimes I wonder these things too. When we bottle it in, we end up losing it for the smallest of things which probably don’ t even make sense. I am still quite bad at hiding my emotions!!
He he, me too, you can see my emotions a mile away, especially when I’m angry;-)
When I see children so freely expressing their emotions I, too, often think wish I could do that. But, I feel that I do and it sounds like you do as well in a more adult manner ; ) or at least I try for this ; ) Because you are right it is not healthy to suppress – expressing and releasing is a good thing and can be done constructively! You go girl!!!
Hey, yes I do try to express myself, I agree that it can be done constructively;-) lots of love to you my friend
I might not do so much screaming anymore (hurts my throat) but boy do I go on a steaming rant with lots of creative combinations of swears – you’d be amazed at how many combinations there are Anne. At least I usually have the house to myself when it happens but for sure keeping it all inside isn’t healthy. If you bottle everything up, then you’re talking about a world class meltdown when you hit the final straw!
Good to meet another one;-) yes definitly… Bottle it up, not such a good idea! I do have some awsome swears myself, thank god my man doesn’t speak norwegian!! Yet….
Yup a good scream or a kickbox session. You must let it out… the crying thing I can’t let into when it happens mainly because of my work. If I were to cry in uniform every time I got frustrated? No one would think I could handle my job, so I deal with stress by hitting the gym and letting myself have a good scream or cry to release it out when I’m alone.
Yeah that wouldn’t be very proffesional I guess, to cry in a uniform;-) lots of smiles and laughter to you Jenny
LOL glad you understand believe me its not easy… it was nice to read that someone else feels the same way. Somehow, on some level???? It just makes it easier to know. Thank you for sharing the real emotions that we all shovel quickly to cover.
I’m happy you appreciate, because I think many of us feel this way but we learn to control. Control is good, but….. I do seriously consider sometimes to just lie down in the middle of the supermarked and scream;-) i don’t though….
I scream (quite often) in my car. Usually shortly after I pull into my own lot. It does wonders!
He he he, wonderful, I’ll be sure to do that… Very very soon!
I agree with that. On an average men cant stand women crying. It stirs a lot of emotions in us..
Ha ha, got the feeling all my life with any men in my family yes!
You need to get an outlet for your feelings. Like hitting a boxing bag. Or something.
I climb the mountain and shout where no-one can hear me.
Good idea! I’ll find a mountain next time, I actually remember doing that years ago in Norway, it felt great!
I try to express myself occassionaly when I have those feelings. My kids now grown know when I am upset with them,that is when all the housework usually gets done by them.Ha ha,but true.
When I feel the need to scream I lock the doors to my car and then I scream until I can’t scream anymore. This should not been done while driving,
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