Disconnected?
Even though we have more friends on facebook than we would invite for coffee, and we are online on our computers, tablets, ipads, iphones or other mobile devices, I get the strange feeling we are more disconnected than ever.
I have to admit, that sometimes I prefer to send a message rather than pick up the phone. The problem is that it can often lead to misunderstandings. We are not on the same page, or the same conversation for that matter. You can ask a question on facebook and get the answer or comment hours later, and the meaning might have changed.
So we are extremely developed, information is a click away, but it seems impossible to me to be connected all the time. Why do young people get sick and worn out? Isn’t that meant to happen when you retire and get a goldwatch?
I think the reason might be closer to us than we think. The connection to ourselves. Or disconnetion? How do we recharge ourselves if we’re logged on 24-7?
This is one part of my life that has stayed successfully compartmentalized. Over years as a performing artist I spent a deal of time “socialized”. Yet, though I have many contacts through my years online – been online since 1983 – my personal life is very much hermit-like.
Fortunately, I finally found a woman a couple decades ago who feels the same about time spent very privately when she’s away from her public work.
Otherwise, I guess I might have become dangerous,
I hear you, and so happy you shared this, it gives me hope that we can live the way we want;-)
Funny, after years of holding out going on FB I finally did it. I used to think I was missing something but after reading posts – “I’m tired”; “ate pizza tonight”; “going out”… I’m not that sure I missed much. I sometimes worry that my daughter doesn’t know how to just be happy with herself because she’s always connected. I guess it’s nice to be able to reach out to people you might not often hear from but I prefer face to face friendships. When you really want to talk to someone, you need the facial expressions, the mannerisms, the reactions of personal interaction. Oh & I’d put it on facebook, but I guess I can put it here too – “I’m tired”
So true, thank you as always for sharing, I appreciate it! And I just ate ice cream by the way;-)
I try not to be “connected” so much as well. For Facebook, I´ve stopped really paying attention to it. For texting, I try to keep it simple and live it to “hey let´s meet up for a coffee”…I much rather enjoy conversation face to face!
Agree, I like face to face!
It’s so true – I find sometimes even when I wake up in the middle of the night, I may go online for a few moments or check my phone for messages. My brain never seems to sleep anymore.
Yes, it ‘s time for brain- sleep, at least once in a while…
I love that I do not have internet on my phones and such when I’m out and about. I do have to agree it saddens me to see tables of “friends” who talk nothing but short sentences to each other while texting deftly into iPhones and other devices with people who I’m sure could wait till later for a response. Pay attention to the hear and now. I make my daughter put hers away for periods of time on vacation so she’s in the moment with us, otherwise – well she’ll get a text and completely drop out of the group. Its frustrating and sad. Of course now that she’s an “adult” I ask nicely that all phones disappear for an hour .
An hour is at least something;-) so happy you stopped by to share, have a good here-and-now;-)
Good question! Don’t have an answer though
He he;-)
It’s so true~ I feel like I’m too much online, but trying to cut down on my online hours, especially when it comes to just doing useless stuff.
Yeah, there’s some good stuff with the internet and some not so good…
Disconnecting from time to time is vital. It’s just a question of balance. Being connected with everyone all the time is so addicting (it really is, especially with talented people like you !). But sometimes (especially during Easter !), you need to give your mind a little rest. My “rest day” was yesterday, which means that I’m full of energy to be connected to everyone out there, and you know what ?, IT FEELS GREAT !!!
Ha ha, me too, I’ve rested and now I feel greeeat! Thank you so much for the compliments…I’m blushing…
I Agree, i often feel that way and i feel the only way to get passed that is by learning to change things up a little. Cause at the end of the day it is a choice but we always act like the life of the party stops with us and so long as we are willing to accept that its time for a breather to better of ourselves for a change, we can learn to let go and get back to that later! -,o
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Thank you so much for stopping by, and you’re right, it’s about learning and changing…
Yes I know the feeling… maybe people would be scare if they ended up just with themselves, or having to deal with real human beings…sometimes it can be frightening…:) but most of the time it bring something difficult to describe…warmth I guess…
But, there always a but….in french (mais, il y a toujour un mais..) it sounds better…:) , what I was going to write, is that it is still a good way of sharing writing, painting, thoughts, and other things…it is a question of balance, sometimes knowing when to ‘disconnect’…:)
So true, it does really sound even more beautiful in french (as always;-) and it’s a good point that it’ s all about balance, because there are amazing things about the way internet makes us share… Your blog is really nice by the way!
You’re welcome, writing is not my main ‘thing’ but I’m trying to make these blogs as entertaining to read as to look at the pictures, so your appreciation is more than welcome!
Ah, such a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
This is precisely why I canceled my facebook account (well, forever deleted it). I think there is a certain level of inauthenticity involved with a lot of social media. So, when I canceled it, I thought to myself, “I trust the Universal Flow, any connection that serves my highest good will find me… and I don’t need the internet to make myself available… people have been connecting for so many years before fb, it’s not the only avenue…) I am happier without it. However, I do spend more time on wordpress now and though I am happy because I’ve been taking the time to authentically connect with people’s words, this sort of communication does take more energy. I’m starting to think that one day a week, I will do an internet cleanse in order to center myself in myself…
I agree with you that wordpress is different, I think at least it’s words and stories about life, not just gossip… And it actually gives me energy to share and connect here. Of course depending on how we use it. And you also confirmed the idea to also take a day off internet, brilliant! I (almost) did it yesterday and survived! Thanks for stopping by, a pleasure as always Currie!
Good morning my friend,
ONCE AGAIN, and I’m not sure how you’ve done it. BUT ONCE AGAIN (did I say that already?) you have reached across the span of this planet, floated above my sleepily bliss( next time wake me and I’ll make tea, we’ll visit) and taken a thought from MY mind, put it into your magic bag or floating angel pouch( or whatever it is you can only carry(on)while engaged in this sort of planetary/global winged flight into the night skies),,sorry I regress. Anyway, ONCE AGAIN, you have thought the exact same thought as as I, coincidental, I THINK NOT!!!!!
WHEW ! that was a lot huh?
Great post Anne, as always..
PS. let’s start a non internet viral phone call thread?
Steve
He he, we clearly don’t need wireless internet, just telepathy! I think we are only two of many thinking this, there are so many of us connecting without knowing. Which is wonderful, maybe that’s why we have internet? I’m happy I could find your thoughts in my magic bag again;-) thanks for inviting me for tea, Steve, I ‘ll be on the cloud on the right… Lots of laughter from me
I’m off to hide Easter eggs for little ones,have a great day my friend
xoxo 2 U
Hide one for yourself too;-) We’ll connect later! Happy easter from me
I agree, you need to have technology breaks, or you never really get a true physical and mental break from everything. A week away from phones and computers is a great tonic, a month reminds you what life was about.
Maybe that’s what I have to try! Thanks:-)
So true…When I am out, I do not have technology with me.. Simple as that..And then, they are constantly looking at there mobile message forgetting to keep eye contact. Plus, the broken English..the short cut. Great post! Happy Easter Anne……..
Great idea Jenny, and even if I do bring my phone I don’t leave it on the table next to me, its well hidden in my bag! Thank you!
No Facebook when I am out and about. Your welcome
Yes I agree! And I look people in the eyes, phone away;-)
Haha………..:)